Comments for Rock Your Relationship with Robyn Smith

Comment on December Practice Call by Gwen Hostnik

Gwen Hostnik — Mon, 15 Dec 2025 23:44:54 +0000

I watched the video because I was not able to attend the live session. It was powerful! One question – how can I see what was posted in the chat when I’m watching the recordings?

Comment on Relationship Harmony Training Video by Carol Berg

Carol Berg — Mon, 17 Nov 2025 16:47:39 +0000

Great review of Gottman and adding your own methods ! TY

Comment on Commitment Form by Carol Berg

Carol Berg — Thu, 09 Oct 2025 06:34:43 +0000

I love this!

Comment on Meet Your Needs Training Video 2 by Carol Berg

Carol Berg — Thu, 09 Oct 2025 06:26:14 +0000

I’m not sure if I was supposed to wait until next week to watch this~ but I went ahead in case all these lessons are supposed to be done by Tues? I’m on a camping trip for 5-6 days & will have no internet. Better to be ahead and ready for the next class!

I agree with you about our culture ~ especially telling women we’re too much, too demanding and needy. I don’t agree with this belief.

I am very curious to dig deeper into both scarcity and entitlement.
This was modeled by my mom & I can see this pattern by looking at my environment. Fear of not having enough made sense for a child of the depression~ for me it’s learned behavior, and there is a core wound underneath for me to find & heal. I’m ready to do this work!!

I’m also curious if I’m actually supressing my needs~ and to what extent? I do believe I have to be strong and fulfill my emotional needs myself ~ and it goes beyond this into taking care of my sexual needs.
I accept very little emotional & physical contact in my marriage. As a friend said, ‘You are getting breadcrumbs.’ Robyn, shen you said, “Learning to make due w/ very little” that struck a cord in me. Something for me to explore more.

Comment on Meet Your Needs Training Video 1 by Carol Berg

Carol Berg — Thu, 09 Oct 2025 06:08:24 +0000

Great presentation! Looking at all the generational T in my family~ it is quite prevalent. Seeing where I was in younger years and where I am now & where I want more maturity is learning to ask for connection w/ Michael w/ out anger or making demeaning & demanding comments. When I’m in this state, it’s the young child part of me, crying out for attention. I need to determine clear boundaries w/ myself & in our relationship too.

I’ve learned to build my own life~ with groups and classes that feed my love of learning. And it’s possible underneath this might be my way of avoiding my needs? or thinking I’m too much? I used to think this…….in my first marriage. Today I take care of most of my needs myself. Is this true? Or am I actually avoiding some parts of myself because they feel unworthy?

I’m working on letting go of expectations~ I don’t believe Michael’s equip to connect with the same degree of intimacy or vulnerability that I do. Listening to Video 1 I reflect on myself & my family and also on what I suspect his infancy & childhood were lacking. I’m noticing in this moment, my body is feeling edgy & this is a clue I’m getting closer to deeper self discovery.

Nightly TV is where & when we “connect.” I feel ignored then, which triggers feelings of abandonment. I’m aware my emotional eating is tied to T; in high school I was borderline anorexic, now I’m 30 lbs overweight. It’s interesting how my survival skills run so deep & affect my choices especially when I go on automatic pilot. It’s always a little different looking at myself vs taking a detached, psychological perspective.

I’m actively doing shadow work now & combined w/ this course so much is coming together for me ~ beautifully!

I’m committed to staying curious!!

Comment on Video 5 by Carol Berg

Carol Berg — Sun, 05 Oct 2025 02:54:36 +0000

Fun adaptation to Voo adding the facial expressions & vowel tones! I’ve been using Voo for several yrs. this version is very calming! Lots of great tools to try~ I’m curious to try them all ! When my husband is deep in concentration he wiggles his legs just like you showed
……. it’s his go to!

Comment on Handout #2: Videos 2 + 3 by Carol Berg

Carol Berg — Sun, 28 Sep 2025 23:35:17 +0000

Hand on the Heart is a go to for me! Robyn, I really like the suggestion you made to breath in: safety, love, goodness. I added a few of my own words too! I immediately took a deep, spontaneous breath of CALM doing this practice.
Some of my resources: getting into the forest/nature; rocking chair; calling a friend; licorice tea; cuddling w/ my favorite, purple soft blanket with many affirmations written on it; petting or brushing my cat; colors! =painting, colored pencils, or pens; meditation; writing; hot/warm shower; massaging my body w/ oil; smelling/applying essential oils; feel good movie; massage; acupuncture; looking at a photo album; looking at possible vacation get away’s!

Comment on Handout #1 – Introduction + first video info by Carol Berg

Carol Berg — Sun, 28 Sep 2025 22:59:53 +0000

I very much relate to your personal story of CPTSD~ same response behaviors & same time line too! Love the 5 senses awareness tool to use for distraction during intense feelings.
When I feel ignored, not appreciated, included or accepted I feel anxiety. Core wound of abandonment is triggered. When I take on too much & feel overwhelmed I also feel stressed.
My neck, back and stomach become tense, my mouth becomes dry, I drop having eye contact w/ others. If I’m nervous or self conscious when speaking up in a group my palms can become sweaty. I may speak in an irritated tone, short phrases w/ bossy, directness.

Comment on Nervous System Addendum Video (15 mins) by Marilyn Newman

Marilyn Newman — Tue, 08 Jul 2025 20:00:34 +0000

Finally got to this. Very important and helpful addendum. Made a lot of things more clear. Thanks so much.

Comment on Worthy and Empowered Addendum Video (15 mins) by Gwen Hostnik

Gwen Hostnik — Tue, 10 Jun 2025 17:42:03 +0000

Powerful!